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Post by linsi on Mar 14, 2007 16:23:10 GMT 10
Ang sariling option ni apostle Paul is " be single"
ayan ha..sana may mga mag post..
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Post by linsi on Mar 14, 2007 16:25:00 GMT 10
Bakit kamo mas endorse ni apostle paul ang maging single?
ang laki kc ng pagkakaiba..sa married maraming damay baka naman lalong ende mag asawa tong mga nandito, ha tinkerbelle
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Post by Illegally Blonde on Mar 14, 2007 20:28:54 GMT 10
If you don't mind gusto ko ring mag-share..... actually ito yung advice ko dun sa isang kakilala ko... I’ve been used to being so independent even as a child. Being the eldest in the family, I was used to being left alone. I could even sleep in a room alone even if my mom would make all the kwentos about ghosts, aswang, manananggal, etc. Di talaga ako matatakutin. My brother, the second born, is mentally retarded. I still felt I was alone and because of his mental and physical condition I could not play with him so I played with the dogs, cats and chickens. Madalas sila ang mga kalaro ko kaya di ako gaanong sanay na may kalaro, lalo na sa baryo kami nakatira. Kung meron mang ibang bata, sobrang layo naman ng bahay nila sa bahay namin (para nga magkarinigan kami ng kapitbahay kailangan todo-sigaw ang gawin mo at may kasama pang alingawngaw ). Never kong inisip na may kulang sa akin kung hindi ako mag-aasawa. Masaya naman ako na wala. Kung meron eh di okay lang. Ayokong maging malungkot kasi yung ibang friends ko nga diyan, madaming regrets sa buhay-may asawa. Sana raw di na lang sila nag-asawa. Naiinggit daw sila sa akin kasi wala raw akong iniintindi sa buhay, sarili ko lang. Nagagawa ko lahat ng gusto ko, napupuntahan ko gusto kong puntahan (basta kaya ng budget). There are times when I also feel I need someone to hold me and kiss me. Pero lumilipas lang din naman eh. Normal feelings lang iyon lalo na tayong mga babae. Yung physical needs like sex pwede ma-address ng ibang bagay. Pag di mo gaanong iniisip di mo na papansinin, di ba? Of course I understand the feelings. There are times you really want to do it. But I would also think about the consequences. Siguro if I’ll be able to find a guy who is unattached (meron kaya nun?), baka pwede kong i-consider ‘yon. But at the back of my mind, mahirap din kasi imposibleng hindi ako ma-attached emotionally. Binigyan ko pa ng problema sarili ko! Ay, ayoko nga. Ilang minutong sarap lang siguro ‘yon, tapos wala na? Eh di idaan na lang sa pantasya pag di maiwasang isipin. I would say na matagal ko na palang tinanggap na single ako and I was thankful for my parents and loved ones who care for me. They don’t pressure me to get married. Andiyan naman ang mga pamangkin kong makukulit. Sila ang nagpapasaya sa akin. Andiyan mga high school friends ko na laging kong kasa-kasama magkape sa megastrip at sa mga gimmicks. Siyempre may mga kabolahan din ako sa text at sa internet. Pero hanggang dun na lang. Sa mga kagaya kong still single at their age... mahirap naman atang magpadala sa pressure dahil nagkakaedad na. It should not be the basis for deciding to get married. The decision should be anchored on love. Pag may dumating na pupuwede sa inyo at medyo tumatalon-talon ang yung pyuso, i-consider nyo na. In the meantime we should not be spending our time fretting about our being single. Siguro, the best thing that we should do is to start looking into ourselves. Baka naman meron tayong dapat gawin para maging maganda tayo not only outside but inside as well. In our lifetime we should not stop working on making ourselves a better person. In this way we will be able to find the right guy we can consider for marriage. And lastly getting married should not be taken as the solution to our problems.
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Post by tessm on Mar 14, 2007 20:42:25 GMT 10
hindi ako maka-relate dito .. di pa ko pede sa ganitong question.. im too young for this.. hahahaha
(nu kaya tawag kay pika, sanggol..)
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Post by migy on Mar 14, 2007 22:33:34 GMT 10
Gusto kong matawa sa sinabi ni tess, at malungkot naman sa post ni mis IB, pag may time na sasagot din ako. Tuluy tuloy lang mga ka P7
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Post by sarah on Mar 15, 2007 17:57:31 GMT 10
touch ako sa message mo Ms. IB...
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Post by ruth. on Mar 15, 2007 21:04:01 GMT 10
hi miss IB, nakakatuwa naman post mo, its like I am reading my own thoughts. it is very raw, honest, unpretentious. whenever some friends ask me about my status..parang ganyan din sagot ko ibang version lang. what surprises me though is that my married friends find it saddening. when i was expecting they should be happy for me and not the other way around. i guess i have never really encountered or talked to like minded people kaya siguro ganun. but i agree that I can consider myself happy and contented sa status ko rin. there are some minor issues (like missing intimacy lalo na kapg sanay na may ka-long term relationsip), but if you have other people around you whom you love enough to think na complete ka na....nawawala din yung moment na yun.. it passes..like utot..parang ganun hehehe mabaho..minsan may tunog minsan wala..minsan mapapansin ng iba..minsan hindi..part of human nature. but thats it its a passing moment. yung mga taong nasa paligig natin..they are always there forever..so why worry about not not being able to address the issues of intimacy...eh minsan minsan lang naman yun. and I also have a full life right now. cant ask for more. just praying na wag kunin ni God
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Post by Illegally Blonde on Mar 16, 2007 10:20:50 GMT 10
Kahapon medyo nag-isip ako kung bakit sinasabi migy nalungkot dun sa pinost ko. Si sarah naman ay na-touch hahaha.... Binasa ko nga ulet ngayon. Seryus pala kasi masyado ang sagot ko. Bigla tuloy lumitaw si Ruth at sumagot.
Ruth, bakit nga ba madalang ka na rito?
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Post by P7er on Mar 16, 2007 14:00:41 GMT 10
I was sad by the confession of a mentally retarded brother, also the longings and yet touched by the positive outlook of Illegally Blonde.
Cheers for that.
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Post by linsi on Mar 16, 2007 14:02:53 GMT 10
dami kong gustong sabihin dito, sa dami di ko maumpisahan, haaay,
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Post by ruth. on Mar 16, 2007 14:11:25 GMT 10
I was sad by the confession of a mentally retarded brother, also the longings and yet touched by the positive outlook of Illegally Blonde. Cheers for that. i am not saddened in anyway..sa confession ni Miss IB. kasi she does not look at her brother's state as a reason to be miserable. there are other people who seems to have everything in the world,...money,career, kids, husband/wife...but whatever circumstances you put them in...they are miserable.. sa kanila ako mas nalulungkot... miss IB on the other hand is happy on her own..with or without the things that popular culture think we should have in order to be content or happy.. happiness is an attitude..its all in the mind and the heart.
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Post by ruth. on Mar 16, 2007 14:34:38 GMT 10
Kahapon medyo nag-isip ako kung bakit sinasabi migy nalungkot dun sa pinost ko. Si sarah naman ay na-touch hahaha.... Binasa ko nga ulet ngayon. Seryus pala kasi masyado ang sagot ko. Bigla tuloy lumitaw si Ruth at sumagot. Ruth, bakit nga ba madalang ka na rito? seryus lang ako mag-sulat pero di ako seryus hehehhe masyadong busy miss IB...kaya nga di na kelangan asawa o bf e. sa sarili ko lang kulang pa oras ko e
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Post by Illegally Blonde on Mar 16, 2007 15:06:55 GMT 10
I was sad by the confession of a mentally retarded brother, also the longings and yet touched by the positive outlook of Illegally Blonde. Cheers for that. Thanks for the kind words, startred. Sa totoo lang I consider my brother's state more of a blessing than a burden. Mas excellent nga ang social skills niya kesa dun sa mga iba kong kapatid. Pag may bisita kami sa bahay, siya yung marunong mag-entertain. Dadaanin niya sa kwento kaya ang bisita di maiinip. Siyempre minsan yung mga kwento niya kung saan-saan napupunta pero kahit papano may sense namang kausap kaysa sa ibang normal na tao. At sa pagiging thoughtful wala akong masabi. Siya yung madalas nangungumusta sa akin and he always looks forward to my home visits. heto nga pala family pic namin taken two years ago... nasa extreme right yung brother ko...
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Post by linsi on Mar 16, 2007 16:18:47 GMT 10
wahhhhhhh, iyak na me dito not because of kawawa, api mode kundi gaya ng mga naunang comments, it is quite touching,
ate ib, i work with the mentally challenged clients dito and my heart goes with them, sad to say walang awareness ang marami sa atin sa pinas about them but totoo ang sinabi nyo ni ruth, madalas mas mabuti pa ang mga mentally challenged brothers and sisters natin, in them we can see our reflections as normal people kung gaano ba tayo ka normal gaano ka kristyano and on how do we take care of them, upbring them and evaluate ourselves in terms of strength, dedication and worth kung paano tingnan ang buhay sa kabuuan nito.
say hello for me to your brother, tell him my heart goes with him.
If a picture paints a thousand words then let's paint it with understanding and make this world a better place to live in..
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Post by linsi on Mar 16, 2007 16:20:39 GMT 10
hirap umiyak sa harap ng computer
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Post by Illegally Blonde on Mar 16, 2007 16:31:50 GMT 10
kaya nga nung pinanood ko yung movie ni Sean Penn & Dakota Fanning, iyak ako nang iyak kasi naiisip ko future nung brother ko.
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Post by linsi on Mar 16, 2007 22:55:35 GMT 10
kaya nga nung pinanood ko yung movie ni Sean Penn & Dakota Fanning, iyak ako nang iyak kasi naiisip ko future nung brother ko.
ate ib, talagang yan ang isa sa mga greatest concerns natin ang future nila kung tutuusin ang kanilang kinabukasan ay nakasalalay sa ating mga normal, dito sa aming baryo, may mga instituions at schools na well managed at attended yung iba ay private at marami ay through the social welfare system at mismong masasabi ko, it is the best institutions for them kasama sa dorms nila ang school nila, may mga activities and social functions sila kompleto dahil libre ang motor and nerve, therapies, occupational, speech, et..cetc therapies.. depende sa klase ng kanilang kalagayan, napaka amazing talaga..
ang alam ko sa atin sa pinas meron na rin, kaya lang kung sobrang mahal maybe some could put up organizations kasali na ang mga parents for a small group for them..yun nga lang bottom line talaga ay financial resources.
one thing that opens up in my mind is this..
marami sa mga normal ang hindi rin nakakatiyak sa future, cguro nga ay ginawa ng Diyos na hindi natin makita ang kinabukasan instead, we were given a promise of a better future by God, we are working for that future and hoping for the best at ito yata ang tinatawag na faith yun bang i surrender natin sa Diyos ang buhay at kinabukasan natin lalo na ang mga mentally challenged na mahal natin and i know you are doing that.
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Post by linsi on Mar 16, 2007 23:02:45 GMT 10
in connection dun sa topic natin single or getting married,
cguro ito rin ang ibig sabihin ni apostle paul.. na ang mga singles ay mas malaya at ang iintindihin lang nila ay mas kokonte. and they could engage in doing better things for the betterment of humanity.
kc pag married tayo ang concern natin ay first ang ating mga spouses tapos children at dun mapapako ang great bulk ng ating energy at oras.
it is such a great responsibility at halimbawa nagkarun ng anak na mentally challenged hindi basta basta kung paano ang gagawin nila paano kung kulang nga sa pera at walang enough knowledge sa management ng ganitong situation?
cge.. next time ulet mapapahaba..
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Post by leanne. on Mar 19, 2007 15:11:46 GMT 10
Parehong maganda ang single or married depende sa capacity Yun nga lang napapansin ko rin pag may asawa na hindi na makapag forums jok!
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Post by frango on Mar 20, 2007 12:01:06 GMT 10
sarap ng single... pwede mag double or triple anytime...
pag married na... hirap na magbawas o magdagdag. hehe
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Post by rowtide on Mar 21, 2007 9:45:39 GMT 10
Yung married, nakatali na, yung single nakakawala pa. Ironically, yung mga nakatali gustong makawala yung mga nakakawala gusto matalian and the cycle goes on
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Post by leanne. on Mar 23, 2007 9:38:53 GMT 10
Pag married ka kasama na ang baggages diyan, whereas pag single ka laya ka.
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Post by violet on Mar 27, 2007 15:34:09 GMT 10
of course mas maraming baggages pag married, just look one of my many friends..
single- may alok siya for an insurance job since unemployed siya kaso di niya type--
ang tanong sa meh, bakit kc di alukin si mr x rather than me pareho naman kaming unemployed, he may as well do the job better than me..
sagot ko naman
but he is married, at uunahin niya yung kanyang frield kesa sa insurance na wala naman siyang alam dyan..
tanong ulet nya:
pareho lang kaming unemployed,
sagot ko:
pero iba siya meron siyang dalawang maliit na anak, so mas uunahin niyang maghanap ng trabaho dun sa field niya which is "marketing" kesa sa umattend pa siya ng mga seminars and trainings about insurance na kakain pa ng oras nya..
isa yan sa mga benefits ng single..pede ang lazy bones sa mga single na hindi pwede sa mga married.. kc may mga hatak na baggages ang mga marriedssssss
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Post by violet on Apr 20, 2007 17:52:16 GMT 10
hay nakow
sarap ng buhay ni tess at ate ib mga single yan..
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Post by frango on Apr 20, 2007 19:36:55 GMT 10
no difference
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Post by migy on Apr 26, 2007 3:53:45 GMT 10
;D ;D ;D
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Post by delta on May 7, 2007 19:37:45 GMT 10
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Post by leanne. on May 11, 2007 10:25:30 GMT 10
Honga naman bakit walang difference, di wag nang mag pakasal kung ganun din lang.
;D
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Post by migy on May 23, 2007 4:21:46 GMT 10
I second that Emotion leanne
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Post by rowtide on May 29, 2007 10:37:15 GMT 10
I third that emotion.
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