Post by violet on Nov 5, 2010 10:02:46 GMT 10
To begin, I want to look at sex as a part of love. I don't claim to be an expert, but many college students have one mind-set when it comes to sex: just do it.
As college students and human beings, we have a natural desire to give and receive love. You may agree that love plays a significant role in our lives, and for most it will eventually involve a sexual relationship. My concern lies in tales of sex and love being treated as casual issues of entertainment. I may be in the minority by asserting that sex should not be taken lightly. Nevertheless, I feel the need to ask questions and discuss.
To begin, I want to look at sex as a part of love. I don't claim to be an expert, but many college students have one mind-set when it comes to sex: just do it.
As young people with fewer inhibitions than adults, the tendency is to follow natural sexual desires. But I pose a question: Is it always right to follow our nature?
With studies focused in nutrition, I tend to think in terms of food, so I'll attempt an analogy.
I wish dessert were a major food group - does that make it healthful? No. Though, dessert can be part of a healthy diet.
If I only ate dessert I would suffer some consequences (weight gain, sickness) but I would also lose appreciation for it. Sooner or later, I would discover that balanced meals actually make me feel better.
Sex can be a natural and healthy part of a romantic relationship; I consider it an expression of love for, and commitment to, another person. However, if sex becomes the focus of a relationship, the commodity used to get close to someone, either or both parties often suffer consequences.
We've heard the drama story, "She slept with my buddy, I thought she cared about me."
And there's the telltale boredom story, "Well, I'm just not attracted to her anymore, and this other girl looked really hot."
In the first case, unnecessary hurt occurs. The second is an example of how appreciation and respect for sex and the significant other falls to the wayside.
I've seen plenty of sexual relationships (pre-marital) end in break-up; some end after one night, some after five years.
As college students and human beings, we have a natural desire to give and receive love. You may agree that love plays a significant role in our lives, and for most it will eventually involve a sexual relationship. My concern lies in tales of sex and love being treated as casual issues of entertainment. I may be in the minority by asserting that sex should not be taken lightly. Nevertheless, I feel the need to ask questions and discuss.
To begin, I want to look at sex as a part of love. I don't claim to be an expert, but many college students have one mind-set when it comes to sex: just do it.
As young people with fewer inhibitions than adults, the tendency is to follow natural sexual desires. But I pose a question: Is it always right to follow our nature?
With studies focused in nutrition, I tend to think in terms of food, so I'll attempt an analogy.
I wish dessert were a major food group - does that make it healthful? No. Though, dessert can be part of a healthy diet.
If I only ate dessert I would suffer some consequences (weight gain, sickness) but I would also lose appreciation for it. Sooner or later, I would discover that balanced meals actually make me feel better.
Sex can be a natural and healthy part of a romantic relationship; I consider it an expression of love for, and commitment to, another person. However, if sex becomes the focus of a relationship, the commodity used to get close to someone, either or both parties often suffer consequences.
We've heard the drama story, "She slept with my buddy, I thought she cared about me."
And there's the telltale boredom story, "Well, I'm just not attracted to her anymore, and this other girl looked really hot."
In the first case, unnecessary hurt occurs. The second is an example of how appreciation and respect for sex and the significant other falls to the wayside.
I've seen plenty of sexual relationships (pre-marital) end in break-up; some end after one night, some after five years.